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Taking Charge of Your Fertility

by Toni Weschler
The vagina blog book club book about charting menstrual cyclesThis book is an absolute must-read for everyone that owns a vagina.  It reads like your best friends blog and includes important information like:

  • The latest medical advances in assisted reproductive technologies (ART)
  • In-depth coverage of women’s gynecological and sexual health
  • Illustrations, photographs, an expanded color insert and sample charts
  • Three Prevalent Conditions—Endometriosis, Ovarian Cysts and PCOS
  • Natural Ways to Balance Your Hormones
  • Preserving Your Future Fertility
  • Miscarriages
  • Idiopathic Infertility
  • Causes of Unusual Bleeding

“Clear and comprehensive, yet warm and approachable, Taking Charge of Your Fertility is one of the most universally lauded health books on the market today. It is an essential reference for every woman of reproductive age.”

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Sex That Works: An Intimate Guide to Awakening Your Erotic Life

by Wendy Strgar

 Wendy Strgar is a sexologist and founder of one of my favorite lube companies, Good Clean Love.  Her writing is honest, thought-provoking and immensely helpful in maintaining long term sexual relationships!  “Making sex work—embracing your erotic soul and deepening the intimacy in your life—is both a consequence of deep presence and its gift. Healing our selves in our deepest erotic space can only be a deliberate act, and the doing of it miraculously seems to heal everything else. Tapping into the courage to know your own deepest sexual thoughts and feelings, and offering them with your whole being, is both a life work and lasting gift that will be long remembered.” —Wendy Strgar, Sex That Works

Sex That Works covers these 11 topics:

  • Freedom
  • Pleasure
  • Finding your normal
  • Courage
  • Curiosity
  • Sensation
  • Fantasy
  • Attention
  • Gratitude

Strgar makes very good points about how we confuse sexual freedom with sexual license, resulting in a hookup culture that has us faking orgasms like porn stars. Authentic sexual freedom, she writes, means ‘taking responsibility for our own sexual needs.’ The book shows us how to do just that. She talks about how to achieve a state of mental abandonment, how to appreciate small sensual moments, how to love without always worrying every second about being loved back — and how asking for sexual satisfaction even requires a certain level of courage. Along the way, Strgar, now in her 50s, explains how she brought her own sex life with her husband of more than 30 years back from the brink of ruin. She argues persuasively that sexual pleasure, however you define it, is not a luxury but a necessity. I might add that the love oils she sells on her site smell really good.” —The New York Times Book Review


Spiritual Midwifery

by Ina May Gaskin

Spiritual Midwifery Ina May Gaskin BookI love Spiritual Midwifery and I love Ina May Gaskin.  Her book is an important read for any woman because it changes the way that we look at birth.  It challenges the cultural norms that we’ve learned as Americans and shines a light on how birth CAN be, if we just let it.

“The original Spiritual Midwifery, published in 1976, introduced an entire generation of young women to the possibility of home birth and breast feeding. It also breathed new life into the all-but-vanished field of midwifery.  Ina May Gaskin is one of the Founders and the current president of the Midwives’ Alliance of North America. She is a powerful advocate for a woman’s right to give birth without excessive and unnecessary medical intervention.

Her clinical midwifery skills have been developed entirely through independent study and apprenticeship with other midwives around the world. Ina May and fellow Farm midwives were instrumental in the development of the rigorous Certified Professional Midwife (CPM) certification process.”

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Sweetening the Pill

by Holly Grigg-Spall

why we shouldn't be taking horomonal birth control, long term effects of the pill, iuds, the patch, the depo shotEducation and information are power and this book is powerful.  There is a huge lack of information about the hormonal birth control that many women take and this book sets out to expose everything you really need to know.  It’s a must-read.

“Millions of healthy women take a powerful medication every day from their mid-teens to menopause – the Pill – but few know how this drug works or the potential side effects. Contrary to cultural myth, the birth-control pill impacts on every organ and function of the body, and yet most women do not even think of it as a drug.

Depression, anxiety, paranoia, rage, panic attacks – just a few of the effects of the Pill on half of the over 80% of women who pop these tablets during their lifetimes.”

“Holly Grigg-Spall is fearless, and her courageous advocacy on behalf of women whose stories are too often silenced is a model for others trying to make positive change through health activism. Read the book and get inspired, get angry, and most importantly get information. Sweetening the Pill is exactly the thing needed to energize and mobilize this important women’s health conversation.” — Laura Eldridge, author of In Our Control: The Complete Guide to Contraceptive Choices for Women and co-author and co-editor with Barbara Seaman of The No-Nonsense Guide to Menopause.


Come As You Are

by Emily Nagoski

Female Sexuality Book by Emily NagoskiResearchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.

The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.

Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.

Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.

And Emily Nagoski can prove it.

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The Guide to Getting it On: Unzipped

I love this book.  I give this book to friends + family for their Birthdays, Christmas, Anniversaries…it’s pretty fantastic.  Everything you EVER wanted to know about sex and so much more is included in this book in the most straight-forward and down-to-earth way possible.   It is well organized, clearly annotated, and well illustrated.  If you like to have sex, if you are curious about sex, if you are nervous about sex, if you want information you can actually trust about sex written by people who have done the homework, this is the book for you.  This isn’t just a how-to or an explanation-of. It’s an everything book. There are few subject areas that this doesn’t cover, and it’s bound to answer pretty much any question you have.
From the author: I originally wrote The Guide to Getting it On for people who wanted to have better sex. But then it started winning awards and being used in college sex-ed courses. So I tried to make the book all things to all people, and it started to grow, and grow, and grow.  But with this new edition (the unzipped one that I’ve linked to), I’ve taken the Guide To Getting It On back to its roots. It is 624 pages, which is half the page count of the previous edition, and it is almost $10 cheaper, at $19.95.  This edition is about you, assuming you are looking for a book that is down to earth, fun to read, and is your best ally when it comes to having really good sex.  (Older editions are longer and more in-depth and can be found here, like the the 2004 edition in the picture of me!)